I Have 94% Extrovert Personality

Odd title. Right?? I wanted to write about my extrovert personality from a long time, but I wasn’t sure if I am an extrovert or not. Well, not until I took this personality quiz. This test’s results showed that I am 94% extrovert.

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Why I was confused about being an extrovert?? Well, you know some people say that horoscopes do not make up your personality, your personality is the result of the way and circumstances that you are brought up in. Parenting shapes personalities. Now, my mother is pisces and I am a Libra. I know right??? How  can a libra be an introvert. Libra people are definitely extroverts. But being the daughter of a pisces mother, my personality is that of a libra as well as pisces.

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I am shy like my mother. I don’t laugh, I smile. I love books. I love to carefully plan everything. I am day by day realizing that I am a perfectionist, just like my mother. Although I tell my mother that I like realistic endings, but deep in my heart I know that I always like happy endings.

Just like an introvert, sometimes I want to be left alone for sometime. I often refuse to get out of the house. I even refuse to talk on the telephone. I am afraid that if I fail to recognize that voice on the phone, I’ll make a fool out of myself.

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Whenever I like something, I have to share my excitement with everyone. I even express my stress to everyone. This relaxes me. In the case of introverts, I have noticed that they accumulate stress. This can destroy them. Let it out!!!

Like a libra, I was overconfident when I was a child. Now, I am not even confident. But I am trying my best to gain confidence.

Like an extrovert, I love making new friends. I have a large number of friends and I love them all. I can easily start a conversation.

Like an extrovert, I love getting my voice heard. I want to have my own identity. I do not highly enjoy being the centre of attention, but I do like being recognized. I love to participate in every discussion. Unlike my mother I love participating in class discussions.

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One of my greatest problems is that my face shows my emotions like an open book. Everyone can see what I am feeling. I can not conceal my feelings. Many a times when I am angry or sad or bored, my family members tell me “Just look at your face!!”  One time when I discussed this problem with my aunt, she told me that this is good, because this means that you are still honest, that you are not insincere. Well introversion is not being insincere. So this is a topic for another day.

intro_extroverted_person-01So, are you an extrovert, or an introvert?? Or are you still figuring it out like me?

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True Confidence Takes Much More Confidence

I have always regarded physical confidence as true confidence.  A person who express his or her ideas without fear, speaks freely in front of a large audience (without shaking hands and shaking voice), and communicates to others easily, was an ideal example of confidence for me. What other definition of confidence is there, right??? Well, let’s see what else in there that defines confidence.

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I didn’t knew that a shy person can be confident too. Well, I didn’t till someone told me that. It happened like this.

I was sitting outside my department with my friends. While we were talking, I took out my lunch box from my bag. My lunch typically consists of an omelette sandwich (I think that day I had this lunch). I took out the sandwich and began eating it. My friend, I saw, was observing me keenly. Her face was showing that she was amazed by something. She asked me that how do I do that. I was quite surprised by her  question. Then she told me that I am so confident. She told me how she had trouble eating from a lunch box in front other people, how she feels so shy among other. I replied that she was one of the most confident friends I know. Then I realized that I am confident in my  own way. 

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I may be very shy and afraid (I have overcome my fear to great extent), but I have confidence in my judgement. Actually I am quite indecisive,so lets make this as I am confident in my judgement of right and wrong. I have the confidence to say “Sorry, I do not know the answer.” I have the confidence to accept in front of others that I love to eat rice with my hands. That I feel that I have eaten nothing if I have eaten rice with spoon. I am confident in being me. In doing the right and accepting when I am wrong. I am confident in being myself. I may not be completely physically confident, but I  am self confident.

SL 2This brings us to another problem. What is the link between confidence and bravery?

Less well thought answer is that whoever is confident is brave.

More well thought answer is that a confident person may or may not be brave.

What??? How can a confident person not be brave??

Well, I can give you an example. A girl I know which I can call as the most confident girl was giving a presentation in the class. The topic was not of her field of study, but she delivered a fantastic presentation. I was highly impressed. She also asked questions from us. I would have given her 10/10 marks. Well, when the presentation ended,one of my class fellows wanted to ask a question from her. What she did??? She held out a finger to my friend, silencing her from asking any question, and said, “Don’t do this with me.”

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What do you think about think? At that moment all the impact of her presentation fell off and I thought that she is not brave, just confident. You will also meet many people that are confident, yet they lie. And as per my mother’s saying, people who lie are not brave enough to tell truth.

So, here’s the recipe of true confidence.

Physical confidence + Self confidence =  True confidence

So what I want to say is that true confidence encompasses physical confidence, self confidence, bravery, and so many other things. So, if you have one of these ingredients, strive to obtain the others too. Only when you’ll have all these ingredients you will be confident. Really and truly confident.

“Which One Do You Feel Comfortable to Communicate With, Speaking Or Writing?”

This question was originally asked by my English teacher during one of our classes.  At first, I got confused because I wasn’t asked ever before to choose between speaking and writing, but then I made my choice and replied, “Writing, of course.”


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Well, I can say that she was quite surprised when many of us answered that they feel comfortable with writing. She, herself, as I could see by the look on her face, prefered speaking over writing.

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She told us that speaking is easier and better because of many reasons. I am listing only a few of them.

  1. Speaking requires gestures only and you don’t have to waste a lot of words to explain you emotions.
  2. You can shape your words by adjusting them to the mood of your listeners. You can even change your way of speaking to be more convincing. You can defend yourself, whenever required.
  3. No Punctuation is required.
  4. You can communicate in two way manner. You can observe the response of the audience to what you are communicating.
  5. Speech has its own grammar. So, you can be easy at grammar usage. For example, you don’t have to use complete sentences at times.

I said that I feel comfortable with writing. Maybe it’s because I love writing. I am very shy in formal settings, while I am very confident in informal ones. So in formal setting I can communicate better in writing. I mean I love to express myself through colorful adjectives. I also feel that through writing I can communicate my ideas more effectively, and more confidently.

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The best thing about writing is that you don’t have to see the faces of your listeners. You can communicate without caring for the response you’ll get. Writing makes you more brave. I love that writing has a structure and organization. You may not think before speaking, but you think before writing, so there are fewer mistakes. 

It’s also easy to settle disputes and say you’re sorry through writing. You can say sorry to a friend who doesn’t even agrees to talk to you in school by texting her a long and elaborate apology with a lot of plzzzzzz….. Trust me, I have done this before and it is effective. 

Writing provides evidence. You can keep copies and do not have to worry about getting trouble for something that you didn’t do or say.

But,I do love speaking too. I love speaking in informal setting, such as in friends, class fellows and family. I love making new friends and I usually don’t have any trouble doing that. I am also trying to love speaking in formal settings. To express my ideas more confidently and fully.

Although I am a very talkative person, I feel uncomfortable with speaking in formal settings, such as in front of guests, in presentations, etc.

So, till the time that I become confident, I definitely love writing. Although I am good in public speaking, I would like to get better at it.

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Goodbye My Fear of Presentations

I nearly never had problem in delivering a presentation, making eye contact, etc. My problem was that as soon as I would reach the rostrum, my heart beat would start pounding my ear, and then my voice would start to quiver. This shivering voice was my biggest problem. Once a friend of mine commented my presentation as a “Musical Presentation” 😀. The highest marks were 9 out of ten and mine were 8. So, you can imagine that where my presentation stood.

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I never had problems, such as looking at the audience, the teacher, reading from slides, etc. I usually don’t memorize presentations. I just understand them and then make bullet point on a small paper that fits the size of my palm (this was taught to me by my first semester’s English teacher. So, thanks ma’am).

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I’d like to add that I don’t feel shy, unconfident, or nervous, when I am speaking from my own seat, but  if someone asks me repeat the same by standing in front of the class, I start trembling. I sometimes think that I don’t like to be the center of attention.
Someone once told me that I will stop getting nervous during my presentations when I’ll reach fourth semester. I was like, “Yeah, it may be so for girls who do not take much stress. But in my case I can’t be sure this will happen.” Now, when I have reached fourth semester, I find her being 100% correct.

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But, I don’t give all the credit to the passage of time, and my continuous exposure to these situations. This was done, above all, with the help of God, and a little due to my own effort. I searched for exercise that can instantly reduce stress. I have learned from experience that there is no easier way to calm yourself and slow down your heart beat than this:

Deep breathing is the quickest and the easiest way to lower down your heart beat. It does so in only a few seconds.

I also found a book on how to improve my presentation skills. I found many things.

  1. The first was that you should first look at your audience and smile, so that they know you are confident. I didn’t exactly do this, but, as I am usually the one who changes the slides when my group members are presenting, I keep smiling to the audience and I look at them over and over again so that I can stop being nervous.
  2. I also found out that while one you are being questioned do not draw your head back because this will give an impression that you do not want to answer or do not know the answers. So, keep your head bet towards your audience.
  3. This one was learned from my own experience. If you have full grasp on your topic, then you won’t get confused or nervous.giphy (5)

In a nut shell, this semester nearly all my presentations went well. Although I was surprised when a friend of mine told me that she liked my Geology’s presentation (which was to the worst presentation in that semester). So, may be its all in your head, but trying to improve is not wrong. So, keep on trying….

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