“Which One Do You Feel Comfortable to Communicate With, Speaking Or Writing?”

This question was originally asked by my English teacher during one of our classes.  At first, I got confused because I wasn’t asked ever before to choose between speaking and writing, but then I made my choice and replied, “Writing, of course.”


Well, I can say that she was quite surprised when many of us answered that they feel comfortable with writing. She, herself, as I could see by the look on her face, prefered speaking over writing.

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She told us that speaking is easier and better because of many reasons. I am listing only a few of them.

  1. Speaking requires gestures only and you don’t have to waste a lot of words to explain you emotions.
  2. You can shape your words by adjusting them to the mood of your listeners. You can even change your way of speaking to be more convincing. You can defend yourself, whenever required.
  3. No Punctuation is required.
  4. You can communicate in two way manner. You can observe the response of the audience to what you are communicating.
  5. Speech has its own grammar. So, you can be easy at grammar usage. For example, you don’t have to use complete sentences at times.

I said that I feel comfortable with writing. Maybe it’s because I love writing. I am very shy in formal settings, while I am very confident in informal ones. So in formal setting I can communicate better in writing. I mean I love to express myself through colorful adjectives. I also feel that through writing I can communicate my ideas more effectively, and more confidently.

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The best thing about writing is that you don’t have to see the faces of your listeners. You can communicate without caring for the response you’ll get. Writing makes you more brave. I love that writing has a structure and organization. You may not think before speaking, but you think before writing, so there are fewer mistakes. 

It’s also easy to settle disputes and say you’re sorry through writing. You can say sorry to a friend who doesn’t even agrees to talk to you in school by texting her a long and elaborate apology with a lot of plzzzzzz….. Trust me, I have done this before and it is effective. 

Writing provides evidence. You can keep copies and do not have to worry about getting trouble for something that you didn’t do or say.

But,I do love speaking too. I love speaking in informal setting, such as in friends, class fellows and family. I love making new friends and I usually don’t have any trouble doing that. I am also trying to love speaking in formal settings. To express my ideas more confidently and fully.

Although I am a very talkative person, I feel uncomfortable with speaking in formal settings, such as in front of guests, in presentations, etc.

So, till the time that I become confident, I definitely love writing. Although I am good in public speaking, I would like to get better at it.


Take this poll or comment to tell me about your choice.

4 thoughts on ““Which One Do You Feel Comfortable to Communicate With, Speaking Or Writing?”

  1. It all depends on the setting, and what message I need to convey whether I feel comfortable speaking or writing, When talking to other people I feel more comfortable speaking to that person, because so many things can get misconstrewed in your writing, and sometimes writing an email can be impersonal, when talking on the phone, over Skype, on facetime etc., is much better. However, If I need to send a recorded thank you to someone, or If I need to send a message to someone, I’d rather write it than record it in my own voice, because when I write I can edit what I want to say, but I can’t do that with a recording, least wise not a digital recording. Let me explain what I mean. One of my favorite talking book narators retired from the American Printing house for the Blind at the end of January. For her retirement party, A fellow narrator asked listeners to record a message telling Mitzy Friedlander how greatful we were for her narration, and let her know how much we enjoyed reading the books she recorded. Well, I tried to record my message and I messed up very badly, so I decided to write a brief letter for her instead. Other writers like myself wrote poems for this particular narrator. This is an illustration of how writing is better for me than speaking.

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    • Thanks for reading and commenting wwannwrites. I can definitely understand your point. When I was asked this question, my answer was writing, but when I made up my mind to write this post, I came to realize that this all depends on context. I think those who look for perfection, or have fear failure, (like me) will prefer to communicate through writing.

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      • To be honest with you, I would rather sing instead of speak in front of a large audience, even if it’s my church family I’m speaking too. God bless you, and your writing.


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